Tags: Aurie Parris, Katie Couric, Valetta Bradford, Xzavier Davis-Bilbo
Tags: #longreads, Friend Valetta on Facebook, Spokeswoman Valetta Bradford, the X-Man Foundation, Xzaiver Davis-Bilbo
He was a rambunctious five year old and it was a beautiful day in Milwaukee. His mother Valetta Bradford, a single-mom working as a manager in Corporate America was home after a long work day and just wanted to rest a while before preparing dinner. The park is across the street from the home Valetta owns. Her 13 year old daughter offers to take Xzavier to the park so mom can rest. This is a typical day for millions of us but this one in a million doesn’t end with dinner. Nobody made it to that dinner table because that dinner table never got set on October 10, 2010.
A distracted driver struck Xzavier within the confounds of the crosswalk in front of their park. The children didn’t see her approaching because this driver crossed out of her own lane. The vehicle struck Xzavier and drug him off twenty feet away and ran over his small body with both sets of tires. He was ripped from his sister’s hand and the only thing that saved his life was the metal scooter he had slung over his shoulder because his mother taught him to carry it when crossing the street. She didn’t allow her son to ride the scooter in the street. The doctors would tell Valetta that evening that the scooter took most of the brunt of the impact of the force of this strike otherwise Xzavier would have died on impact.
Now the woman driving the vehicle was fined a little over a hundred and fifty dollars and this is the extent of her punishment. She got off so easy and Xzavier has to pay for the rest of his life and so does Valetta and so does that older sister and so does everyone in Xzavier’s family and so do I. I have never met Xzavier or Valetta but I saw their PSA on my TV one day in July of 2013 and I haven’t stopped thinking about them since. I live in Texas and they live in Milwaukee and because of my own injuries from a distracted driver we are likely never to meet. This doesn’t stop me from getting involved and it shouldn’t stop you either. We can take their message
Xzavier’s injuries are so serious. He is paralyzed from the diaphragm down and he is trae-vented. He is confined to a wheelchair or bed and he remains on a respirator. He has partial use of his hands. He’s nine years old. He was injured at age five.
Not much has changed since the ‘It Can Wait’ campaign got underway and this is mainly because this campaign is organized by the very companies providing the mobile distractions. Valetta Bradford, Xzavier’s mom has turned herself into a Spokeswoman against Distracted Driving by holding her son up for all to see. She will never turn down a speaking engagement because Valetta has stated this work gives their existence meaning. It means something. Valetta has embraced all the changes necessary to keep her son at home, a very expensive and challenging endeavor considering that he is paralyzed from the diaphragm down, he has limited use of his hands, and he has to remain on a respirator that has to be monitored 24/7. Valetta’s career had to be sacrificed so that she could become Xzavier’s primary caregiver. Valetta and Xzavier grieve over the loss of his Personal Legend. Xzavier had dreams of becoming a linebacker for the Green Bay Packers, Xzavier’s favorite team since he was three (or before then). I grieve for this too because we take football very seriously down here in Texas.
And there you have it in a nutshell. Xzavier was crossing the street but he didn’t make it to the other side because a callous woman was texting instead of watching the road and she crossed out of her own lane and she plowed over Xzavier with her very large vehicle. If not for the metal scooter, you would not be reading this article because statistics don’t have a voice. Xzavier didn’t make it to his destination but he survived. We have a world of drivers who need to pay attention to him.
The text that woman was sending read “I’m on my Way.”
You can donate to ‘the X-Man Foundation’ at any Educator’s Credit Union in person or you can friend Spokeswoman Valetta Bradford at this link;
Valetta invites all of you. She founded ‘the X-Man Foundation‘ to educate drivers to the dangers of distracted driving with an emphasis on texting. This is a grass roots project with the most powerful message available at this time. By holding Xzavier up for drivers to see how horrific their activities can become we can change the world one driver at a time. If you do not live near an Educator’s Credit Union you can still donate to the X-Man Foundation directly through Valetta Bradford’s personal email. Her address is firstname.lastname@example.org
The X-Man Foundation is a federally recognized non-profit. The donations are used for the on-going care of Xzavier Davis-Bilbo and for the cost of travel to speaking engagements locally and nationally. Valetta is able to take Xzavier with her and Katie Couric even got him to speak on camera. Valetta says that Xzavier is a chatter box until he is around new people but Katie is empathetic and wonderful and her works against Distracted Driving pre-date Xzavier’s injuries. It’s too bad that driver who attacked Xzavier hadn’t listened to Katie and that is the point of this article.
I strongly believe that we can hold up Xzavier to this great nation and to the world because the world is filled with horrible drivers. They really will give any ditz a driver’s license, and I should know. This article is written by an injured lady from Texas. My injuries are the opposite of Xzavier’s. I have bulging discs from the diaphragm up to my skull. It is a very painful existence I live without the aid of painkillers. Xzavier’s mom told me he has to take so many pills that it could choke a horse. How sad for a nine year old. I know a lot of you reading this article will want to help them if just to give Xzavier the best day he can possibly have. And what makes him the happiest is being with his mom in front of you wherever you will have him. He’s actually quite a social animal. I have pictures to prove it but go ahead and friend Valetta and view them from the source.
This is a grassroots campaign and we are real people. I hope you understand that. We give up our privacy and time to bring this message to you. ‘Don’t text for X’. Really, ‘Don’t text for X’. If you feel like you can’t wait to take that call the next time you are behind the wheel, take a moment instead to think about X. I honestly do not know how anyone can forget Xzavier if we can just get him out there for the national exposure he deserves. I write letters as often as my injuries allow to the President and to Talk Show hosts and to you. It is just a matter of time before this campaign is launched nationally. Your donation would mean a world of difference and will shorten the waiting period for the mother who waited through nine surgeries to see whether or not her son would survive and then Valetta had to endure the horrifying news of what shape her son would have to continue his life in. Do you really want this woman to wait a moment longer? It’s not like the woman who ran Xzavier over has stepped forward. In fact, she slinked away from that crosswalk and never once offered an apology or any assistance. Her only offer was the inadequate insurance that she carried. Valetta netted $25K dollars to care for her son in this condition for the rest of his life and his Personal Legend was sacrificed to that damnable text. Valetta used the insurance money to buy a second hand wheelchair accessible van which needs repairs and Xzavier hits his head on the ceiling coming and going and she replumbed her house to accommodate Xzavier’s bathing needs. Valetta had to install a wheelchair lift to her home. She struggles to keep all the medical supplies she needs to stock for Xzavier including this cream that paraplegics require so their skin won’t break down. We certainly don’t need to add a bedsore to Xzavier’s list of injuries.
I cannot imagine any excuse anyone could offer not to volunteer for this campaign. I cannot. We need office equipment, we need billboards, we need all manner of promotional tools, like business cards, stationary, stamps. We need volunteers. We need sponsors. This waiting period needs to end and the volunteers need to carry this family in pursuit of this campaign. If you want things to change, you have to change things.
After all, we are all connected through our roads and the odds are increasingly against your arriving at your next destinations. Valetta wants you to make it. ‘Don’t text for X’.
Valetta Bradford seeks mystery woman who recovered Shi Shi, the missing help dog of paralyzed son Xzavier Davis-BilboPosted: June 2, 2014 in Uncategorized
Tags: Local Milwaukee news stations rally around Spokeswoman Valetta Bradfrod and are successful in retrieving her son's help dog, MADACC, Milwaukee Area Domestic Animal Control Commission, Spokeswoman against Distracted Driving, Valetta Bradford, Xzavier Davis-Bilbo was paralyzed by distracted driver
Valetta would love to thank the mystery woman known only to us by the first name Lynette. Watch the news story at this link;
This article only names the mystery woman as Lynette, but you see her in the video. Lynette purchased Shi Shi off the street from some teenage boy who wanted $40 dollars and she got the boy to sell her the dog for $10 dollars.
When she brought the dog home, her family recognized Shi Shi as the missing service dog for Xzavier Davis-Bilbo thanks to the local Milwaukee news stations coming to rally around Valetta pleading for the dog’s return.
Then Lynette called Fox 6 News and told them she had turned Shi Shi into MADACC, the Milwaukee Area Domestic Animal Control Commission.
If anyone knows Lynette please tell her to contact Valetta.
And of course we invite all of you to friend Valetta on Facebook at this link;
You can contact Valetta for red X pins and t-shirts, copyright Valetta Bradford 2014.
Thank you so much all the local Milwaukee News Stations and the mystery woman Lynette, Thank you, Thank you, Thank you!
the Saga of Shi Shi, Xzavier’s help dog was stolen and then returned after local Milwaukee news stations crusade around Valetta BradfordPosted: May 31, 2014 in Uncategorized
Tags: Happy ending for Shi Shi, Local Milwaukee news teams rally around paralyzed boy to spread the word of his missing dog, Shi Shi, the missing help dog is returned, Valetta Bradford, Xzavier Davis-Bilbo
A saga of a missing help dog was unfolded on the Facebook page of Spokeswoman Valetta Bradford these last two weeks.
For months, Shi Shi, the Blue Pitt Bull help dog of Xzavier Davis-Bilbo has been praised and featured in Valetta’s day to day life. She calls Shi Shi her other baby of the four legged variety.
Then Shi Shi was taken from their front yard and Xzavier was inconsolable. Valetta reported that Xzavier wouldn’t give up and he got them out door-to-door passing fliers for the missing Shi Shi.
The details will be added as they come in, so follow us here for the what is known of Shi Shi’s abduction and the incredible rally of the Milwaukee press to come to the aid of this family.
Valetta Bradford is the mother of Xzavier who became a Spokeswoman in the ‘It Can Wait’ campaign. She and Xzavier and Aurie are featured in the documentary ‘From One Second to the Next’ and Werner Herzog said it was Valetta that inspired him to make it.
Follow this link to watch Valetta and X go door to door in search of Shi Shi;
Tags: Chandler Gerber, Valetta Bradford, Xzavier Davis-Bilbo
On October 10, 2010 a driver struck five year old Xzavier Davis-Bilbo ripping him from his sister’s hand and dragging him twenty feet before stopping.
This driver crossed out of her own lane and into the on-coming lane of traffic in order to hit Xzavier. Let it be known there was little hope of preventing this sudden onslaught. Xzavier was doing everything right including NOT riding his metal scooter in the street. He had the metal scooter slung over his shoulder like his mom told him to do when crossing the street in the crosswalk. Xzavier and his older sister were in the crosswalk.
It just so happens this driver was texting but that in no way excuses her total disregard for human life.
Xzavier is paralyzed from the diaphragm down. He has limited use of his hands. He also lost his left lung and will have to remain on life support. This all pales in significance of what he really lost which was to realize his dream of becoming a linebacker for the Green Bay Packers, of which I have no doubt he would have realized had this driver not attempted to negligently murder him.
That is how serious this is.
The doctors told his mother that the metal scooter he had slung over his shoulder saved his life else he would have just become another statistic of distracted driving. Xzavier survived.
His mother Valetta Bradford has become a spokeswoman against distracted driving with an emphasis on texting. Valetta Bradford brought her son home and she changed everything to accommodate her son with his new disabilities rather than allow him to become institutionalized.
This is why I am in this work, to promote this family. I can imagine what it’s like for her but Valetta once told me, ‘You have no idea.” and I suppose that is true. I’ve been writing these articles since July of 2013 and I find out something new all the time. For instance, Valetta told me they never get any peace and quiet because the machines keeping her son alive drone on and on so loudly. Xzavier has to live like this.
Xzavier should be enjoying his childhood.
I know they do all they can to make him as comfortable as possible and I know they do all they can to make his childhood as magical as they can despite these challenges but this family is struggling financially. Valetta cannot work because she is the primary caregiver for her son. She also has a nurse that stays overnight so she can sleep.
Valetta stays up all night on weekends and makes sure that respirator keeps on droning along and Xzavier has to be watched 24/7 in case his equipment needs suctioning. We have no idea.
As for the driver and her insurance, Valetta received $25K and that’s it. Her lawyer worked pro bono and that is almost unheard of where I come from, (Texas, I’m a certified paralegal and legal specialist graduated with a 4.0). The driver received a fine a little over $150 dollars. She should be in prison.
So the next time you want to pick up your phone while driving I hope you remember this article. I wrote it for you. I myself have never used a phone while driving but everyone I know does. I’ve written these same facts down over and over but after reviewing the statistics for these webpages this one site gets the most traffic and I felt it would serve the public if I capsulated the story again here.
What can you do? Start with a ‘Don’t text for X’ attitude and don’t bother your friends when you know they are on the road. That will help.
And show the love. We are still working out the kinks of getting you a donate button on-line. It’s hard because Valetta has never met me. I’m that Lady down in Texas and I got involved after I saw the PSA Valetta and X did with Werner Herzog. I’m planning a trip to Milwaukee for October to attend the Annual Walk for Awareness that Valetta has hosted every year on or near the date of Xzavier’s injuries. You can meet them too. Follow this blog and you will see the reminders of the event in advance. So far, this is a grassroots effort and we do not have the support of any sponsors.
And you can send a donation to Valetta to her post office box or contact her on facebook to post a donation by PayPal through her personal email or if you are close to an Educator’s Credit Union, you can make a donation to the X-Man Foundation. This is a federally recognized non-profit to promote the campaign ‘Don’t text for X’.
Send your gifts and contributions to Valetta here;
PO Box 06061
Milwaukee, WI 53206
Friend Valetta on Facebook
that Lady down in Texas
Tags: invitation to the White House, the White House, Valetta Bradford
Fundraising is hard. Finding sponsors for campaigns is even harder. There are many new commercial spots pleading for people not to text while driving. In Austin the companies who are advertising against distracted driving are companies that have professional drivers delivering goods and services out there on the front lines and they are reporting back that distracted driving is everywhere, everyday. You take a risk every time you share the road with distracted drivers.
We were hoping that an invitation to the White House for Xzavier and his mom Spokeswoman Valetta Bradford would give their campaign a Presidential stamp of approval but getting the attention of the White House has proven to be even harder than getting the attention of distracted drivers. We will keep trying but we could use your help.
I am suggesting that you visit Valetta’s facebook page and wish her a Happy Easter and it wouldn’t hurt to tell her you are sorry she has to struggle this long and that your prayers are with her this holiday.
Tags: White House Administration
Follow this link to sign our petition;
We need 100K views for White House administration recognition. If we get 150 signatures our petition will be posted on the White House website and I checked, the competition is not that much. We could easily be the first petition regular folks are likely to sign.
Here it is again, the link to the petition;
For those of you who wish to donate to this campaign but finances are tight, please donate a few minutes of your time to this cause. Right now the reins of this campaign are in the hands of those companies providing the phones. That is not enough. We need our government to recognize that distracted driving is killing us and Xzavier should be held up by the White House Administration for the drivers of this nation to realize this distracted driving needs to stop.